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Helping You and Your Children Through The Day!

Playtime & Bedtime


"I put his favorite toy away when other kids come around-it saves them fighting over it."

"If she's really upset, I try and take her somewhere else so she can calm down-she still has to know she can't fight, but it's better doing that somewhere quiet."

Other things to try:

  • Let children sort out their own squabbles, as long as no one gets hurt. But do seperate them if they hurt each other, and explain firmly that you won't allow anyone to hurt another child.
  • Let your child know that you understand why he is angry, but that hurting is not allowed.
  • Helping your child to talk about his feelings when or after he is upset may help to reduce the chances of the same problem happening again.

Early Evening to Bedtime

"When I get home from work, I try to have five minutes just for them-once I've heard about their day, it's easier for them to let me go and cook dinner."

"We've just started giving him a five minute warning so he knows that he's got a bit more time to play, then it's bedtime."

Other things to try:

  • Get into a routine of bath, book and bed that your child feels comfortable with.
  • Listen to your child's fears about the dark or going to bed, and help him find ways to deal with the fear, i.e. chasing the monster out of the room.
  • Share the routine with your spouse or family member.
  • Try and give each of your children some special time with you-read a story or catch up on their news.

Looking After Yourself

As much as you love your children, they can also drive you to distraction, dawdling when you're trying to get them off to school, or asking for toys in the supermarket.

If you make sure to take a break and relax, or to go out and enjoy yourself, then you will be in better shape to cope with being a parent too. Get together with other parents-children often feel happier if they have a friend or company. Don't be shy to ask for help. Remember-and it's not always easy-you're important too!