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10 Reasons Why Long-distance Relationships Just Don't Work


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Lack of Trust
Trust is one of the foundations of a healthy relationship. If you don't have it, you're headed for trouble.
Trust is one of the foundations of a healthy relationship. If you don't have it, you're headed for trouble.
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If you're currently in a long-distance relationship and have just read the preceding section, you're probably freaked out by now. And by freaking out, you may just jeopardize an otherwise healthy long-distance relationship. (Sorry about that.)

Plenty of relationships end because of trust issues (whether real or perceived), and long-distance relationships are a minefield of them. There's really no way of knowing whether or not an S.O. on the other side of the country is cheating on you. But remember that close proximity offers no guarantees, either. A healthy, monogamous relationship requires of its participants a moral compass, ethical grounding, commitment and devotion. A trusting relationship has a lot to do with your personalities, your dating histories, your behavioral patterns and whether you're naturally a jealous person.

If your S.O. is very flirtatious or has issues with being on his or her own, you may be dealing with a batch of real or perceived problems -- and the difference between the two, as it relates to the health of your relationship, is negligible.

Your S.O. may not have a wandering eye, but your fear that he or she does may cause your long-distance relationship to collapse under the weight of suspicion. Or, in a misguided effort to protect your heart, you may decide to make some bad decisions of your own.

But, as we'll find out next, even if jealousy doesn't ruin your long-distance relationship, financial strain could.


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