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10 Reasons Why Long-distance Relationships Just Don't Work

Prelude to a Breakup
Not the first person to wait by the phone for a call that never comes
Not the first person to wait by the phone for a call that never comes

You've done everything in your power to keep your long-distance relationship going strong, but it still seems like it's faltering. You write letters, keep up with your S.O.'s life through phone calls, and plan frequent get-togethers whenever your schedules allow. So why isn't it working out?

Sometimes, long-distance relationships are designed to fail. It can be -- in one person's thinking, at least -- a safe way to start a new life without right away losing the security and stability of his or her previous life. Even if a person has no intention of staying in a long-distance relationship, he or she may also fear jumping into a new environment without any support system whatsoever. However, once the new surroundings start to feel familiar, those phone calls "back home" may decrease in frequency, duration and interest.

Aside from the sense of security a (temporary) long-distance relationship can provide, some people just don't like initiating the emotional havoc that breaking up inevitably causes. For people who prefer to avoid confrontation at all costs, going long-distance with a S.O. may be one in a series of never-ending steps that lead to an eventual breakup -- likely after the other person takes the initiative on their own after finally getting the hint. Whereas breaking up on the telephone is in exceedingly poor taste in a normal relationship, there may be no other option in a long-distance relationship, and this may appeal to someone who's scheduling a move across the country -- and a breakup to go with it.

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