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10 Sex Questions You Might Be Afraid to Ask -- but Should

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Is a Decreasing Sex Drive Normal After We're Married?

Plenty of married couples wonder if it's normal for our sex drives to decrease after we're married. In a word, yes. However, despite the number of married couples affected by this matter, there's not much in the way of statistics. And for every couple whose love life is languishing in the bedroom, there are just as many anecdotes of long-time lovebirds rocking it on a near-nightly basis.

It's natural for our sex drives to diminish as we age, regardless of our relationship status. The Kinsey Institute reports that half of couples don't have sex after age 65, but also that frequency of sex is a pretty solid indicator of a healthy marriage. Interestingly, the frequency (or likelihood) of extramarital affairs also drops as we get older [source: Smith].

Surveys show that married people have more sex each year than their unmarried peers, and both groups show marked declines from ages 20 to 70 and older. But married 70-year-olds are still getting busy an average of 16 times a year, while their single friends have sex fewer than 10 times a year [source: Smith].

So it's normal for your sex drive to decrease after you're married, just not right away. If that's the case, bring some spontaneity (or even planning and scheduling) into your sex life, or spice it up with new fantasies, locations, positions or role-playing.

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