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10 Sex Questions You Might Be Afraid to Ask -- but Should

        Health | Sexuality

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As a Woman, How Can I Orgasm?

For some women, sex seems like a lot of effort for little payoff. Orgasm is the peak of sexual experience, but some women may find they aren't ascending to those heights. It's not uncommon for women of all ages to have difficulty reaching orgasm, or never to have experienced one at all. An inability to have an orgasm can make a woman feel as if there's something wrong with her or her sexuality. As much focus as our culture puts on sex and orgasms, they're not always such an easy thing to achieve.

A lot goes on during orgasm: blood pressure increases, vaginal walls contract and the brain releases a flood of endorphins. One study using brain scans showed that large parts of women's brains "turned off" during orgasm [source: Le Page].

Orgasms can result from any number of sexual activities, but some work better than others for individual women. A woman may have an orgasm through stimulation of the clitoris, the vagina or both. A search for the G-spot, which is located about two inches past the vaginal opening, on the vaginal wall facing the stomach, may produce orgasmic gold, though not all women seem to have this erogenous zone [source: Marshall].

Women may want to try clitoral stimulation before, during or following other sexual activity, and this may be easier at first through masturbation. Sometimes, stress is the culprit, and practicing relaxation techniques could work wonders. Regardless of why you haven't achieved the Big O, with enthusiasm, exploration and dedication, you can learn what all the fuss is about.


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