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10 Ways to Overcome Sexual Insecurity

        Health | Sexuality

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Walk Around Naked More Often

For some people, sexual insecurity comes from the way they feel about their bodies. If you're one of them, feeling comfortable in bed with someone else has to start with you feeling comfortable with yourself.

Easier said than done, right?

Start with something concrete: Take it all off. And by "it," we mean your clothes. Walk around naked. Look at your body in the mirror (not under fluorescent lighting!) through the eyes of someone much more compassionate than you usually are with yourself. Yes, you might have cellulite, or one breast or testicle that's lower than the other, or weird hair on your back. But so what?

Despite what you may have absorbed through the media, people like different things. Fat, pubic hair, paleness -- those all get someone going. You don't have to have Ryan Reynolds' abs or Scarlett Johansson's cleavage to be sexually desirable. If someone is smiling at you in a bedroom and inviting you under the covers, it's because they want to sleep with you. Just as you are.

No more turning off the light. Remember that confidence is sexy, too.


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