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10 Ways to Overcome Sexual Insecurity

        Health | Sexuality

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Accept That You Like What You Like

Let's say that what you need to feel fully aroused is dirty talk. You want your sexual partner to tell you, in detail, exactly what he or she fantasizes about doing to your naked body. (Or, hey, your clothed body -- whatever works.)

But you don't want to ask, because you're afraid that he or she will think it's weird. And, instead of having an incredibly satisfying experience, you leave wishing for something more.

The heart wants what the heart wants. Same goes for the genitalia. Unless your particular sexual predilections are illegal or dangerous, they're fine -- and we promise that there are other people who share the same longings.

You have a choice: You can try to plant thought beams in your partner's head about what you want, or you can talk about it and possibly elevate mediocre sex to something fantastic. And who knows -- he or she might've been hoping the entire time that you'd say it.


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