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10 Ways to Overcome Sexual Insecurity

        Health | Sexuality

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Use Your Mouth -- to Talk
If you're feeling a bit uneasy, talk it over with your partner.
If you're feeling a bit uneasy, talk it over with your partner.
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Like so many other situations in life, communication is key when it comes to sex. You should be talking about contraception and STDs, of course, but there's more to it than that.

It's OK to admit that you're inexperienced or need cuddling or compliments, or that you're a little shy. If he or she isn't the kind of person you feel comfortable talking to, you might want to rethink the whole "exchanging bodily fluids" thing. You don't have to discuss the time your dog got hit by a car, but you should be able to share with a sexual partner your feelings about sex.

If you're insecure about your abilities, few people will mind having a willing pupil -- some will enjoy it, in fact.

So instead of letting your inner monologue distract you, try putting some of it into words. After that, you might not need too many words at all.


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