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5 Important Questions to Ask Your Partner Before Getting Into Bed

        Health | Sexuality

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What Kind of Sex Do You Enjoy?

Variety may be the spice of life, but it doesn't always fly between the sheets. Everyone has their own idea of adventurous -- and their own boundaries regarding what's permissible in bed. For example, one person's inclination for rough-and-tumble sex could be another's idea of violence. Conversely, "What is your fantasy?" is a perfectly legitimate question.

Better to ask beforehand, rather than spoil the mood once you've gotten past second base. There are many "types" of sex, depending on position, orifice and setting. Despite presidential denials, oral sex is still sex. So is anal sex. Bondage, leather and S&M (sadomasochism) are perfectly acceptable as long as both participants understand the parameters. Some people may even be OK with auto-erotic asphyxiation -- even though this particular practice is rife with risk, and has been linked to the deaths of celebrities ranging from actor David Carradine to INXS singer Michael Hutchinson.

Much of male and female sexual dysfunction is tied directly to performance anxiety, and that often has to do with expectations (known and unknown). The more details you can collect early on, the better prepared you are to have a mutually enjoyable experience.

On the positive side of the ledger, this type of question can make for stimulating conversation, creating an exquisite tension between partners and really heightening the mood once you're both ready to jump in the sack. That's a good thing.

You do have condoms, right?


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