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5 Tips for Dealing with Caregiver Burden

        Health | Elder Care

Be realistic
Learn to pick your battles and think realistically.
Learn to pick your battles and think realistically. F. Young

Expecting the impossible -- such as a full recovery from age-related dementia -- only leads us to greater heartache when that outcome doesn't materialize. That's why it's important to set realistic expectations and goals to alleviate caregiver burden. Over time, you'll learn which tasks are more important, and which goals simply won't pan out.

Understanding the condition that requires your presence as a caregiver can better prepare you for the progression of the condition. Caregivers often tend to those who are in the final stages of life. While there may be no hope for recovery, there can be personal satisfaction in aiding another human as he or she prepares to make the transition from life to death. No matter what, it's important to recognize your own personal limits and needs.

Feelings of being overwhelmed, lonely, or angry are common among caregivers, and you shouldn't feel guilty about such thoughts. But neither should you focus too much on them, because that won't ultimately help either. Find a local network or support group for caregivers to see how others are coping with the situation. Knowing that you won't have all the answers by yourself will free you to seek outside assistance and get the answers you need. Taking care of someone is an especially difficult task. Accepting that you'll have many hard days can make all your days a little more manageable.

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