Every woman with breast cancer has unique needs and desires for assistance. How much help is needed, and when, will vary from woman to woman. But one thing that remains the same is the need for companionship with people who can be available and helpful, but can also help a woman feel that she is more than her diagnosis.
One of the most important things you can do is stay in touch. Many people sincerely offer help and sympathy when they first hear of a woman's diagnosis — but then never call again.
Consider your schedule, your special talents and your ability to help out, and make specific suggestions if your friend or loved one seems hesitant to ask. Be creative and spontaneous as well; it's often the little things you notice along the way that can help out the most — such as tidying the lawn, fixing a leaky faucet or helping to decorate for a child's birthday party.
Even if she doesn't take you up on your offer immediately, stay in touch. Many women do not realize what they will need help with until they are trying to coordinate treatment with the rest of their lives.