10 Ways to Build Resilience

By: DiscoveryHealth.com writers

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Developing resilience is a personal journey. People react differently to traumatic and stressful life events.

The following tips were prepared by the American Psychological Association (APA) and appear in a brochure, entitled "The Road to Resilience." For a copy of the brochure, which also lists places to look for help, call 1-800-964-2000, or visit the APA Help Center.

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1: Make Connections

Good relationships with close family members, friends or others are important. Accepting help and support from those who care about you and will listen to you strengthens resilience. Some people find that being active in civic groups, faith-based organizations or other local groups provides social support and can help with reclaiming hope. Assisting others in their time of need also can benefit the helper.

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2: Avoid Seeing Crises as Insurmountable Problems

Is stress interfering with your life?
Is stress interfering with your life?
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You can't change the fact that highly stressful events happen, but you can change how you interpret and respond to these events. Try looking beyond the present to how future circumstances may be a little better. Note any subtle ways in which you might already feel somewhat better as you deal with difficult situations.

 

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3: Accept That Change Is a Part of Living

Certain goals may no longer be attainable as a result of adverse situations. Accepting circumstances that cannot be changed can help you focus on circumstances that you can alter.

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4: Move Toward Your Goals

Create a list realistic goals.
Create a list realistic goals.
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Develop some realistic goals. Do something regularly — even if it seems like a small accomplishment — that enables you to move toward your goals. Instead of focusing on tasks that seem unachievable, ask yourself, "What's one thing I know I can accomplish today that helps me move in the direction I want to go?"

 

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5: Take Decisive Actions

Act on adverse situations as much as you can. Take decisive actions, rather than detaching completely from problems and stresses and wishing they would just go away.

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6: Look for Opportunities for Self-Discovery

Experiencing hardships can strengthen relationships and your self-image.
Experiencing hardships can strengthen relationships and your self-image.

People often learn something about themselves and may find that they have grown in some respect as a result of their struggle with loss. Many people who have experienced tragedies and hardship have reported better relationships, a greater sense of personal strength even while feeling vulnerable, an increased sense of self-worth, a more developed spirituality and a heightened appreciation for life.

 

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7: Nurture a Positive View of Yourself

Developing confidence in your ability to solve problems and trusting your instincts helps build resilience.

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8: Keep Things in Perspective

Don't take it personal.
Don't take it personal.
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Even when facing very painful events, try to consider the stressful situation in a broader context and keep a long-term perspective. Avoid blowing the event out of proportion.

 

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9: Maintain a Hopeful Outlook

An optimistic outlook enables you to expect that good things will happen in your life. Try visualizing what you want, rather than worrying about what you fear.

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10: Take Care of Yourself

Keep your mind and body in tip-top shape.
Keep your mind and body in tip-top shape.
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Pay attention to your own needs and feelings. Engage in activities that you enjoy and find relaxing. Exercise regularly. Taking care of yourself helps to keep your mind and body primed to deal with situations that require resilience.

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