By week 12, you've probably been doing enough thinking (and worrying) to last you quite a while: Will you be a good mom? Will you have a boy or a girl? Will you go natural? How much will it hurt?
All of that can wait. Right now, you have a few more pressing considerations, such as:
- Will you have an amnio?At this time, your doctor might be asking about testing for defects. "Screening" for conditions like Down syndrome, Tay-Sachs, spina bifida and sickle-cell anemia require simple blood tests and will tell you whether you need further testing. If you're in a high-risk group, though, you might be thinking about amniocentesis, a test that's more definitive but carries a risk of miscarriage. Talk to your doctor about the risks and benefits, and give it some thought as a couple before you decide how to proceed.
- Can you do something about some of these new symptoms?Yes! For heartburn, eat smaller, more frequent meals; cut down on highly acidic foods, and wait an hour after eating before lying down. For constipation, increase your fiber intake and go easy on the cheese.
- Are you ready to tell?If you've been waiting until the second trimester to make your pregnancy public (some people do this because the risk of miscarriage drops dramatically after the first trimester), now might be a good time to start thinking about how you'll tell people -- and how you'll deal with their reactions. If you've got siblings or friends who are trying without luck to conceive, you may need to be tactful, as well as prepared for whatever immediate reaction you get.If you have other children, start thinking about how you'll explain what's happening. News of a second child can be confusing, upsetting and/or exciting for little ones (and bigger ones). There are books on the subject, in case you'd like some help.
Yes, you have plenty of legitimate issues to keep you up at night -- so why not cross a few less-necessary ones off your list …