Some Things to Consider
As the day gets closer, you may find yourself lost in thought. What kind of parents will you be? Will there be 10 little fingers and 10 little toes? How much will it hurt, really?
Be sure to share at least some (preferably lots) of those thoughts with your partner, especially in areas of practical concern, like:
- Getting off your feet -- This final stretch can be quite demanding, physically. Can you reassign chores and activities so the pregnant lady can rest more (and stand less)?
- Labor -- Once things get going, it can get pretty intense, so talk about important decisions now: Will anyone besides you two be in the labor room? Will you choose natural or medical pain management? Will you draw up a birth plan, or wing it?
- Help at home -- Many couples find it beneficial to have someone helping out when they first bring the baby home. If that's something you're interested in, who will it be? A relative, a doula or a friend?
- Returning to work -- Will someone stay at home? If so, who? And have you looked into leave policies at work? If both will be working, have you lined up daycare?
These are all points to discuss, perhaps over body butter, before you go into labor. Some others, however, you can firmly put out of your mind…