Tardiness is something that kids hate. We're not talking about being late to school, church or basketball practice. Your teen may be consistently late to all of those functions without batting an eye. We're talking about appearing late in their lives.
The teenage years are when some parents decide it's time to finally show up and teach their kids a thing or two about life. But the truth is, your child has been learning from you from the very beginning. If you wait until adolescence to talk to your child about serious matters, or if you delay spending significant time with your kid until things start to go awry, he or she will resist your tardy appearance. This, of course, doesn't mean that you should remain absent; but it does mean that you'll have a tougher time getting your teenager to listen to you if the relationship hasn't already been established. If you can avoid showing up late in your child's life, take the opportunity to do so.
There's no perfect science to raising a teenager. Some days just don't make sense. But if you know the traits teens dislike, you can at least brace yourself for what's ahead.
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- Dunn, Hannah. "5 Things Parents Do That Drive Teens Crazy." Mother Inferior. June 21, 2011. (Dec. 17, 2011) http://denadyer.typepad.com/my_weblog/2011/06/5-things-parents-do-that-drive-teens-crazy-guest-post-by-hannah-dunn-16.html
- Fusaro, Kimberly. "10 Things Your Teenager Won't Tell You." Shine. Nov. 23, 2010. (Dec. 17, 2011) http://shine.yahoo.com/parenting/10-things-your-teenager-wont-tell-you-2413662.html
- Nelson, Jane and Lynn Lott. "Positive Discipline for Teenagers." Random House. April 6, 2000. (Dec. 17, 2011)
- Ninan, Jacob. "The Parent Teenager Divide." Comfort and Counsel. (Dec. 18, 2011) http://www.c-n-c.org/tips/teenage.htm
- Quote DB. (Dec. 18, 2011) http://www.quotedb.com/quotes/1343
- Vivo, Meghan. "Ten Things Teens Wish Their Parents Knew." (Dec. 17, 2011) http://www.aspeneducation.com/articles/10-things-teens-wish-their-parents-knew.htm
As The Who would have said, the kids are all right. See the results of a survey on teen behavior at HowStuffWorks.