Victims of abuse often buy into the notion that they're to blame for their situation. Nothing could be further from the truth. But, since accusations are frequently hurled by abusers, it's easy for a victim of abuse to eventually begin holding herself responsible for anything that goes wrong [source: Stanford].
An abuser tends to blame others. Rather than say "I'm responsible for my actions," he'll resort to "you made me do that!" If you find yourself having to account for your whereabouts during every moment of the day or if a harmless interaction is deemed to be flirting, take note [source: LABMF ].
Don't convince yourself that what you've been accused of must subconsciously be true. If you weren't flirting, for example, then don't analyze the situation for indications that, perhaps, your partner was right. False accusations, particularly repeated false accusations, are a problem with the relationship not you.