On the opposite end of the spectrum from the in-love-at-first-sight date is the one who is completely emotionless. Your date might show up on time, but beyond that, she's just going through the motions.
It's pretty easy to tell when you're out with a cold fish, but just to clarify, here are a few red flags to watch for:
- Your date never asks you any questions about yourself, and when you talk, he or she seems bored by whatever you're saying.
- Your date takes you to decidedly unromantic places.
- You're not sure you're even out on a date, because there is no trace of intimacy. There's no hand-holding, no goodnight kiss -- you barely get a handshake.
- At the end of the date, you're left hanging. There's no promise of a second date, or any future communication beyond a vague, "Maybe we'll hang out again sometime."
There are a lot of reasons for these behaviors, the most obvious one being that the person you're dating is just not that into you. You can try to delude yourself into thinking that he's just nursing a broken heart from a previous relationship or dealing with major life issues. Whatever the reason, it's probably not going to get any better. Get out now, while your heart is still intact.