There are many bad date scenarios and ways to escape. So the question becomes, do you stay or do you go? Regardless of the number of how-to dating books you read or reality shows you watch, it's a personal choice that will vary based on your personality, the severity of the situation and your feelings toward your date. If you choose to leave, your escape route may be determined by how gutsy you're feeling. An experienced dater may have no problem using any of the reasons discussed here, while a novice may waver. Which are you?
If you decide not to escape, there are some positives that may come out of your bad date. A bad date can become a good friend or may have other dateable friends or season tickets to Madison Square Garden. It may also make a really good story. If you decide to stick it out, be sure to focus on the positives. A bad date can be practice for the next time, when you really want it to work out. Maybe you learn how not to end up in the same situation again, or what you may want, or not want, in another date. Maybe you'll decide to say no the next time you have a bad feeling about someone, or maybe your bad date just makes you a more experienced dater. As the old saying goes, when life hands you lemons, make lemonade.
Bad dates are going to happen; it's a fact of life. Just remember, in the game of dating, you can't win every time, or the game would be over. And like your mother probably told you, it's not about winning, it's about having fun.
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