How to Ask a Guy Out

Be Prepared

Before you ask a guy out, you might want to take some time to prepare. Here are a few suggestions for doing just that.

  • Have permission: This is an important factor. After all, you'd hate to gather your courage and ask a guy out only to find out later that your parents won't let you go.
  • All about the attitude: You want to feel confident and good about yourself when asking someone out, because how you look and how you're feeling makes all the difference. A good outfit, a new haircut or acing an exam can all give you the confidence to talk to someone. Likewise, if you're having a particularly bad day, it's probably not the best time to approach the guy you want to ask out.
  • Practice makes perfect: Give some thought to what you want to say, and practice saying it. You don't need to memorize a monologue, but just have an idea of how you'd like to open, the gist of what you'd like to say and how you want to ask him out. Rehearse your ideas, going over things both in your head and out loud to a friend or in front of a mirror.
  • Relax: Remember, no matter who you're asking out, he is human, just like you. Even if he is the best-looking or most popular guy at school, he still has stress and bad moments, and he's probably experienced asking someone out before -- so hopefully he knows what you're going through.
  • Have an exit strategy: If things are not going well, or if you change your mind, you want to be able to bail out gracefully. It may be a phone call to make, an errand to run or a class to get to. This exit strategy will also come in handy if you do ask the guy out and he says no -- a smooth exit will help you keep your dignity intact.

Click to the next page for some ways to make that initial connection with a guy.

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