5 Tips to Spice Up Your Relationship

Break the Routine

Spontaneity lies at the heart of spicing up your relationship. Breaking the routine may be all that it takes to create a romantic atmosphere for you and your partner.

There are several ways to do this.

Surprises are most welcome -- as long as they don't get you or your lover in trouble or fired. Remember, timing is key. If you know your partner is on the hot seat at work, don't chance barging in to surprise him or her. Though your intentions are in the right place, it may be a better idea to wait until your partner gets home.

Another tip to spice up your love life is to leave your partner romantic, loving or funny notes in unexpected places. Resist the urge to text message your partner, if that's something you would normally do. Since there's nothing more sincere than using your own handwriting, leave a note in your partner's coat pocket or even in his or her car at the beginning of the day to score points. This makes your partner think about you throughout the day, which may pave the way for one-on-one action when you both get home.

In addition, try something as spontaneous as skipping work to enjoy one another's company, if you can swing it.

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