10 Ways to Get Sexual Satisfaction


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Communication: Talk About What You Want

Like to be touched in a certain way? Tell your partner. Better yet, show your partner. If you don't ask for what you want, you might not get it. Talking about what you'd like to do and have done to you can help to increase your sexual satisfaction. The same goes for what you fantasize about. If you don't share your sexual fantasies, you may never get to experience them. Speak up and don't be surprised if your partner aims to please.

Sharing wants, needs and most torrid sexual desires can be intimidating. Only about half of us tell our partners about our sexual fantasies [source: Langer]. Men and women tend to fantasize in very different ways. Men's sexual fantasies tend to be highly visual and explicit and are more likely to include body parts or non-specific partners. Women, on the other hand, tend to fantasize about hypothetical situations that engage many senses instead of just the visual. They focus on a partner and the daydreams skew toward the romantic. Your partner isn't a mind reader, and with such differing fantasy worlds communicating desires will help build and deepen intimacy in your relationship.

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