5 Important Questions to Ask Your Partner Before Getting Into Bed


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Are You Using Birth Control?

One of the most traditional pre-sex questions is still relevant today. Many babies come into this world as a result of unbridled libido, instead of careful planning. The adage that "baby makes three" only adheres to couples that stick together. Unfortunately, there will be those who try to pawn off their parental responsibilities.

At the very least, if parenthood isn't in your immediate plans, you should consider using some form of birth control (condoms for men, the pill, patch or cervical cap for women). Not only are condoms one of the best defenses against STDs, but they are also at the frontline to prevent unwanted pregnancies, especially when used in conjunction with another form of birth control.

Don't forget, there's some truth to the old joke: "What do they call couples who practice the rhythm method? Parents!" Pregnancy has been known to occur at almost any time during a woman's ovulation/menstrual cycle, so take precautions. "Pulling out" doesn't qualify.

If you're open to pregnancy, be sure to ask your partner, "How do you feel about commitment?" Or "What are your plans for the future?" If those questions kill the mood, maybe you ought to invest in birth control measures.

Again, carelessness is often an inadvertent byproduct of passion. Be responsible. Contrary to our initial fears, an open and frank discussion can improve, not inhibit, our sex lives.

Want to do some more research before asking the tough questions? We've got lots more information below.

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