Not the Spanish Inquisition
When talking about sex with your teen, it's easy to make the jump from conversation to interrogation. Lead with an aggressive line of questioning, and you'll be met with lies, silence or outright hostility.
While ideally we would all know what our teens are up to at every second, they put a lot of effort into making sure we don't. If your teens looks like they're hiding something from you, it's because they are. What they're hiding, however, may have nothing to do with sex.
When you talk about sex with your teens, don't give them the third degree. You don't want them to think they're in trouble, so don't take that tone or be quite so serious about it.
Be calm and act as if it's any other conversation. Make sure they're paying attention, however. And even though you would prefer that your kids accept and act on your values, ultimately you'll have to accept that decisions about sex are up to them. It's your job to provide realistic information that helps them make the best decisions, and it's their job to stonewall you as soon as you use an accusatory tone.
So how do you prevent a scenario in which you're asking questions and getting a bunch of embarrassed-for-you looks as answers? See the next section to find out.