Some relationships end with barely a whimper, the expected result from a bond of two parties without a real dedication to commitment. Other relationships end in the kind of rending heartache that leaves deep emotional injuries that take years to heal.
If you find yourself drowning in tears during a breakup, and you feel a distinct inability to keep those emotions separate from your Facebook activities, it may be time for a break from this particular Web site. No, really -- take a break from your Facebook account.
Your friends will understand if you post a status update that indicates, "I'm taking a break from Facebook for a while. I will catch up with all of you very soon!"
You can also take things a step further and deactivate your account. And before you decry the end of your online social life, understand that deactivating your Facebook account isn't a permanent action. Facebook saves all of your profile and account information.
When you feel emotionally healed enough to interact in the massive public forum of Facebook again, you can simply reactivate your account and pick up where you left off, whether that day comes weeks or months later.
Finally, keep this last tip in mind. Breaking up is less about technology and more about you as a human being. It's important to watch your online etiquette of course, but taking stock of your emotional development is more important.
You may find that disengaging from mass interaction and spending time in one-on-one communication with valued friends is more rewarding and fulfilling. And fittingly, that's perhaps the best way to get the support you need to heal from your breakup and move on with your life.
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