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10 Facebook Faux Pas in New Relationships


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Soliciting All Your Friends to Befriend Your Partner
Give your newfound love a chance to get to know your friends at his or her own pace, not all at once.
Give your newfound love a chance to get to know your friends at his or her own pace, not all at once.
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At the height of their popularity, the Beatles had thousands of fans flocking to each show they performed. Sometimes, a large mob would rush the performers just to get a glimpse or a touch. This was overwhelming and dangerous for the Fab Four, even though the fans meant no harm.

Online, there's a phrase for the equivalent fan mob that develops for interesting or entertaining Web sites: going viral. Viral Web sites grow as each person tells friends about the site, those friends tell their friends, and so on. If the site reaches the right people at the right times, it goes viral fast, with millions accessing it within just a few days. That kind of attention puts a heavy load on some Web sites, and some can't handle it.

In a new relationship, don't treat your partner's Facebook page as you would a viral Web site. Your partner may feel as overloaded as those sites. There are two precautions you can take to avoid this Facebook faux pas:

First, don't recommend that all your friends send friend requests to your partner. This could be overwhelming, especially if your partner is picky about choosing friends. A better approach would be to introduce each friend personally and let each of them decide if they want to connect on Facebook.

Second, don't actively encourage all your friends to watch your partner's wall and make comments on things you're following. What's worse than one stalker following you? A whole mob of them following you at one time!