10 Questions to Ask Yourself If You're Considering Adoption


What age child do I want?

If you want a newborn baby, a domestic adoption is probably the way to go.
If you want a newborn baby, a domestic adoption is probably the way to go.

Although international adoptions get more media attention, there are actually more domestic adoptions of newborns in the United States. Most babies adopted through private agencies are newborns, as well. For some, adopting a newborn is the only option that they'll consider; they simply prefer to have their child as a baby and experience his or her infancy. In most cases of newborn adoption, the birth parents choose the adoptive parents, and they often meet ahead of time. Domestic newborn adoptions can go very quickly -- in some cases, it can take just a few months. The baby is typically discharged directly from the hospital to the adoptive parents. One thing to keep in mind is that the baby isn't legally the adoptive parents' child until he or she is born, regardless of the agreements made during the adoptive mother's pregnancy.

Adopting older children works better for some families. They know that it's more difficult to find adoptive parents for older children, and they may prefer to adopt a child who is already in need of parents. Sometimes, adoptive parents who are older prefer children who are older, or they don't feel that they can handle the high demands of caring for a newborn or infant. The type of adoption you choose may also play into the child's age; since international adoptions take longer to finalize, the child will likely be older. It's important to consider that, unlike newborns, older children have already had caregivers. They may be old enough to have memories of their birth parents and families, and they may have been in foster care or an orphanage.