Clarify the Difference Between Rights and Privileges
Many out-of-control teenagers believe they're entitled to things such as a car, a cell phone or the ability to watch television or play video games. It's important for parents to teach their teens that such things are privileges, not rights. In treating car keys, a substantial allowance or a cell phone as rights, parents may play a part in enabling their teen's destructive behavior. Privileges can be rescinded if certain rules aren't met, and sometimes these privileges will be so important to a teen that going without them will provide a wake-up call. Parents need to be consistent in their rules and the privileges associated with them so that teens see clear cause-and-effect relationships between their behavior and the consequences.