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10 Ways to Overcome Sexual Insecurity

        Health | Sexuality

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Reprioritize

It isn't true that all men want sex all the time, or that what all women truly desire is a man or woman who lasts for hours.

A common insecurity is about "performance." Women worry that they'll take too long to orgasm, or that they won't be able to. Men are concerned that they'll ejaculate too quickly or not get hard enough.

Orgasms are awesome -- no one's denying it. But making that the only focus of a sexual experience is missing a lot of other things. Plus, the pressure of making it the be-all and end-all of your tryst just makes it more nerve-wracking.

Can't get it up? It happens. If it happens often, you might want to get checked out for any medical issues, but if it happens when you're nervous, you certainly aren't the only one. Can't have an orgasm? Again, not the end of the world. Maybe you aren't comfortable with the person, or maybe you have other stuff going on in your mind. Maybe you're both drunk. The point is that there's more to sex than those few seconds. Make the most of it.


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