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10 Sex Questions You Might Be Afraid to Ask -- but Should


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Why Am I Done So Soon?

Premature ejaculation is defined as ejaculation that happens before either partner is ready, and it may affect as many as 1 in 3 men over the course of their lifetimes. This may occur with minimal stimulation, before penetration or almost immediately after penetration. Keep in mind, though, that ejaculation that occurs after 2 to 10 minutes of intercourse is normal. Ejaculation that occurs between 2 and 10 seconds, though, can leave men feeling inadequate and their partners feeling unsatisfied.

Premature ejaculation can cause distress to you, your partner or your relationship. It may be the result of biological or psychological factors. Emotional trauma (especially related to sex), guilt about infidelity or other matters, fear of pregnancy or anxiety about performance can lead to premature ejaculation, as can erectile dysfunction or stress about it occurring.

Unbalanced hormone levels or an overabundance of neurotransmitters may be wreaking havoc on your sex life. Thyroid issues and genetics may be to blame for messing up your mojo.

One trick you and your partner can try is squeezing the tip of your penis for several seconds as you feel the urge to climax, then waiting 30 seconds and continuing. Repeat as many times as you desire. Some topical creams can reduce sensation, and antidepressants can also slow down ejaculation (a common side effect that, in this scenario, is the desired effect).

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