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Top 10 Things That Can Reduce Sex Drive

        Health | Sexuality

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It Takes Two

Parents aren't the only people who sometimes struggle with faltering libidos. The old maxim "break up to make up" may make for catchy song lyrics, but constant friction in a relationship will ultimately fritter away even a resilient sex drive.

It's important for men and women to understand and respect the differences between them. Think of the classic "Mars-Venus" comparison. We're not the same, and unless we talk about those disparities, it's difficult to find common ground in bed. Good communication skills are key. Remember, secrets and negative feelings never make for good foreplay.

Many experts advocate cultivating the relationship first, without being overly focused on the physical side of things. A healthy sex drive, they say, is often a happy byproduct of simply nurturing one another through the ups and downs of everyday life. Take time to talk. Or, as Dr. Janice Swanson of the Mayo Clinic in Rochester, Minn., suggests: "Set aside time to be sensual and sexual together [source: Mayo Clinic].

Major relationship obstacles -- such as infidelity and mistrust -- are far more challenging, and often require professional counseling. Again, though, partners will need to put the relationship first if they hope to revive their sex drive.

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